PDF Û BOOK Men are from Mars Women are from VenusA Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships

DOC Men are from Mars Women are from VenusA Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships

PDF Û BOOK Men are from Mars Women are from VenusA Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships Ò ❰PDF / Epub❯ ★ Men are from Mars Women are from VenusA Practical Guide for Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met fell in love and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in they forgot they were My biggest problem with the book is that it is extremely sexist The book continually explains that this is just how men are and then goes on to explain how women can learn to deal with that Biggest load of crap ever While some people will certainly fall into these stereotypes I believe this book may cause harm than good Some of the sexist highlights a woman should go shopping when her man decides that he needs alone time this is how she can show him her love and trust apparently women were able to spend time shopping when they lived on Venus because the planet was “covered in shopping malls” a man can leave anytime he wants – in fact he cannot even control when it is that he may need to leave a woman is unfairly punishing a man if he leaves even when she really needs him and she then acts upset or hurt in the slightest upon his return Gray thinks that only women are needy and that only men need to be alone Not so Apparently Gray thinks that women only ever want to be with their men and nothing Well that is simply not true for most independent capable and informed women But that is beside the point Let’s assume that it is true What bothers me even is that Gray identifies the different needs of men and women men need space; women need someone to listen to thememotional attachment but he then goes on to explain that when both men and women are experiencing their needs at the same time the woman simply must concede to the man’s needs Gray explains that whenever men need to be alone that is just the way it is There are no compromises In his book a woman Cathy asks the uestion “If he gets to be in his cave then what about me? I give him space but what do I get?” And here is the answer “What Cathy gets is the best her partner can give at the time By not demanding that he listen to her when she wants to talk she can avoid making the problem much worse by having a huge argument Second she gets his support when he comes back – when he is truly capable of supporting here” That is simply ridiculous What a woman gets is whatever her partner can give at the time A woman just must let the man have what it is he needs regardless of her needs at the time I’m sorry but being in a relationship reuires selflessness and that means that both men and women have to give than what our selfish natures think we can handle While I’ll admit that some of Gray’s advice is helpful insofar as the individuals in a given relationship fall into Gray’s stereotypes they simply are just not that profound Essentially “if you listen to women and try not to take them for granted your relationship will be better” Well no kidding The book just seemed full of perplexing thoughts For example “Men rarely say ‘I’m sorry’ because on Mars it means you have done something wrong and you are apologizing” Well even on earth I was under the impression that when you are apologizing you say sorry I don’t know why the definition of sorry would somehow explain why men would be less able than women to say it In the chapter about how to score points with the opposite sex there is a list of 101 things a man can do such as bringing her flowers listening to her complimenting her calling her etc Most of them are good even if obvious suggestions; nonetheless Gray’s view of women as subordinate still creeps in My favorite thing a man can do to score points with a woman is #67 “read out loud or cut out sections of the newspaper that would interest her” Good idea Because I can’t read and even if I could women don’t read newspapers Come on Even upsetting is that the corresponding list of 26 things that a woman can do to “score big with men” involves NOT doing things For example he makes mistakes and she doesn’t say anything; “he disappoints her and she does not punish him” There are only a few things that a woman can affirmatively do to score points one of which is “she really enjoys having sex with him” Again women are largely the passive actors I’ve wasted far too much energy and time already on this book It is now dead to me

DOC ´ Men are from Mars Women are from VenusA Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships ✓ John Gray

Classic this phenomenal book has helped men and women realize how different they really are and how to communicate their needs in such a way that conflict doesn't arise and intimacy is given every chance to grow This is not psychology This is not even close to be science I had to read this horrible book in the past my partner liked it and I kept thinking to myself that a lot of the stuff in the book was just too convenient too stereotypical to easy Doing a little research found that the school that gave th author his PhD was done away with and that several states California Oregon will not recognize the titles that the school gave out I don't like bashing people on ideas but I hate to see people write as though they are scientists or psychologists when they are not It does harm to the fiel of psychology and breeds distrust for the field among the general public This book does harm than good There are ample books out there based on mountains of research about the real and not real differences and amazing similarities between men and women as well as those who are in different gender categories than the binary system perpetuated by poorly written material such as thisTerrible book and dishonest in its approach to try to come across as psychology If I could give negative stars I would

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Men are from Mars Women are from VenusA Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your RelationshipsFrom different planetsBased on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals Men Are from Mars Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships Now viewed as a modern This book saved me from killing my boyfriend